Advice For Beginning (And Keeping) A Relationship

The best advice I can give to a young couple, just beginning a new relationship is this –

Watch your words.  When someone opens their heart to you, don’t fill it with poison.  Never say things that are cruel, hateful and vile.  The person will never forget the sound of your voice saying them.  Instead, bless them out loud and more importantly, let them remember the sound of your voice praying for them by name.

Guy de Maupassant said les mots ont une âme – words have a soul.  Once out of your mouth, they are born to live forever.  Great good can come from a blessing and countless tears will flow from a curse.  Our words are the single-most barometer of our impact to the lives of other people.

You are making an eternal difference, for better or for worse with everything you say.


James 3:1-12

Let not many of you become teachers, my brethren, knowing that as such we will incur a stricter judgment. For we all stumble in many ways. If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body as well. Now if we put the bits into the horses’ mouths so that they will obey us, we direct their entire body as well. Look at the ships also, though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small rudder wherever the inclination of the pilot desires. So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things.

See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell. For every species of beasts and birds, of reptiles and creatures of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way. Does a fountain send out from the same opening both fresh and bitter water? Can a fig tree, my brethren, produce olives, or a vine produce figs? Nor can salt water produce fresh.


3 thoughts on “Advice For Beginning (And Keeping) A Relationship

  1. I love this post because my son and his wife (married when he was just 20 and she 26) were a strange combination. I was worried, only because he was so young. And I said, “Do you love her?” He said, “Yes.” I said, “Marry her.” And now, they are married nearly 15 years and still like newly marrieds. And I’m glad that he didn’t follow my footsteps – divorced thrice. I think he learned from my mistakes!


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